From the Master of Kadosh (June, 2009)

posted May 15, 2015, 1:57 PM by San Jose Scottish Rite   [ updated May 15, 2015, 1:57 PM ]


The month of June is popular for weddings. I guess that's common knowledge. Maybe not for socially awkward people like me. But a lot of socially awkward guys are good with mechanical or electronic things, like hand tools and computers. So I jumped onto my PC (not literally) ,pointed my browser to Wikipedia, and learned where the June wedding custom originated.
It turns out that back in the days of the Roman empire, when mostpeople believed in a pantheon of deities, the goddess Juno was in charge of marriage and the households of married people. Her month was,you guessed it, the month of June, so people believed it was lucky to marry in the month belonging to the goddess of marriage. That's a reasonable assumption, I suppose.
The Roman pantheon went out of style with the rise of Christianity following the rule of Emperor Constantine in the Fourth Century. Prior to that, Christians were persona non grata in the Empire. Why? Because the Christians rejected the other deities in favor of their belief alone. To the Romans, that was a sign of insurrection waiting to happen. The Romans viewed a Christian about the same way we would view a terrorist. They tossed them to the lions, for the entertainment of the crowds.
Here's the part I don't understand. In light of the atrociously poor treatment at the hands of the Romans, why would Christians, even today, perpetuate the Roman belief that it is desirable to marry in June?
As I write this, I can just see our Secretary, Bob Rowan, looking at the rentals for the Scottish Rite Center during the month of June to see how many wedding there are. He's probably thinking about finding a substitute article for my column this month.
June is also the month for Father's Day, on the 21st. Many countries celebrate Father's Day, most but not all, on the third Sunday in June. In the US, Father's Day has been observed regionally since 1910. It became an unofficial holiday in 1966 and was officially recognized in 1972.
While there are several Masonic groups whose membership includes or is composed of women, Freemasonry is primarily a fraternal, that is, a male organization, drawing its members from the general public. As a result, most of its members are fathers. So Masons should have little difficulty relating to Father's Day. Even if you are not a father, you still have a father. And chances are, you set a fatherly example to a younger person in your sphere of influence.
If you follow the news like I do, most of what you hear is negative. Plenty of bad examples. What are men doing? Getting into trouble, doing drugs, committing violence, neglecting their families. It seems like nobody pays much attention to the guy who is there for his family. And I don't mean playing the "provider" role. That just means working at your job and bringing home a paycheck.
Of course, in today's economy, not everybody is lucky enough to have a steady job. Or maybe you run your own business but you have few projects coming in. Either way, that's not your fault. Nor is it the point.
Being a father is not just paying the bills. It's also fulfilling the personal role of parent. Some people say it's the most challenging and most important thing you will do in your life. When they're little, your kids adore you. When they're teens, they'll fight against you. But at some point, when they're adults, they'll come to appreciate you. I have seen a few cases where parent and child experience a rift in their relationship at some point and it never seems to mend. I don't know why that is, nor how to heal it. Those things happen, humans being the flawed creatures that we are. But I have learned that hope is only lost when we choose to give up.
If you are a father, Happy Father's Day! Father in the genetic sense or not, you never know who might be looking to you for a fatherly example of courage, guidance, or justice.

Daniel Doornbos 
Master of Kadosh